A girl I grew up with told me she feels left out b/c I didnt include her in my wedding party. Wht do I say?

its pretty rude of her to say that to you... being asked to be a bridesmaid is not something you get simply because you want to be... if you were to ask her it would only be because you feel guilty.. It is not up to her to say she is more special or important to you than other people in your life..


i made the mistake of asking ppl simply because i didn't want them to be offended with me, and i wish i hadn't

A girl I grew up with told me she feels left out b/c I didnt include her in my wedding party. Wht do I say?
I had a friend who said the same thing to me and I just told her that I chose people I was a little bit closer to and that I was sorry. I couldn't believe she asked me why I didn't chose her, I thought it was very rude. Report It

Reply:If you didn't invite her it is probably because she is not too close to you, so tell her that it was a small wedding, almost only family.
Reply:get over it ! its not your wedding its mine ! (thats what i said)
Reply:tell her the truth about why you left her out. Any other answer would be wrong. Because it would be a lie and lying is bad.
Reply:tell her u r sorry and u just were not thinking. weddings are a crazy time and sometimes people slip your mind and u did not mean to hurt her. maybe to make it up u and ur wife can take her and her boyfriend out to eat or something. congrats on the wedding.
Reply:The fact that she asked would be reason enough for me not to ask her! You don't have to justify yourself to anyone.





If she is still a close friend, ask her to do something else, say at the reception. Or ask her to keep track of the gifts as they're opened, who they're from, what it is, etc.





Sandy
Reply:Sorry but the wedding party was already too big and we just couldn't have more.
Reply:tell her your sorry and have a girls night out with her.
Reply:I had this happen with a couple of girls I worked with a few years ago. We have remained friends and I honestly didn't even think of them because I was trying to fill the spots with my family so when they approached me, I told them I honestly didn't think about it and told them I was really sorry. I would have loved to have had them in the wedding but didn't have time to have more dresses made and thankfully, they were there to support me and share the happy day with us.
Reply:this is your day and you need to choose your absolutly closest friends in the bridal party, i had a friend that i grew up with in my bridal party and she did nothing to help and i hardly saw her so three months b4 the wedding i had to ask her to step down as my bridesmaid and she never sopke to me again, so choose your closest friend and stick to it!!! Good luck!
Reply:Give her another part in the wedding. That should make her feel special and part of the wedding.
Reply:I feel you, my wedding is coming up. And I know the feeling. You need to understand that this is your big day and you can't please other people so don't try. If they can't be happy for you then its there lose. True friends don't stay mad. So relax you have to many other things to think about. You can't have everyone in your wedding. I'm so happy for you. Its the greatest feeling, knowing you going to marry the man you love. Good luck and stay happy please. And you just tell her whats on your heart and that you can't afford to have everyone in the party, and you love her no matter what.
Reply:I would not say, "I'm sorry" to this girl. Your wedding party is your choice and I think she was quite rude to try to make you feel guilty. You should just say, "My choices for my wedding party was nothing personal against you. I still hope you will come to the wedding and share this occassion with us. It wouldn't be the same without you".
Reply:awww man same here. My friend cried %26amp; cried %26amp; carried on like nothing else. It was really hard to see.


Dont do what she expects %26amp; create another bridesmaid position unless you have spoken to your fiance %26amp; it is agreed upon with him.


All you can do is explain the reasons why you chose who you did. For us, it was because we wanted my partners two brothers %26amp; my two sisters for the bridal party. If you chose your best friend, you could gently tell her how hard it was to choose between the two of you but chose the other because you are closer or that she has been around through thick %26amp; thin. Your childhood friend may be your oldest friend, not necessarily your best friend.


Best of luck, I hope it works out better for you than it did for me!!
Reply:What do you say? Tell her why. That's it.
Reply:If she was a childhood friend, ask her to be at the guestbook or gift table. Some little job. If the wedding has already happened, I think it is rude of her to even ask you. Explain to her why each of your bridesmaids and maid of honor were chosen. If you haven't been close with her since you were a kid, she should understand. And if she doesn't, maybe she is kind of a nut.